The Guardian recently explored something many of us can relate to: when someone close to you shares that they’re going through IVF, it can be hard to know what to say. How do you show support without accidentally saying the wrong thing? It’s a delicate balance—and a common one.
As someone who’s been through IVF herself, the article’s author shared some examples of what not to say, such as: don’t ask who has the ‘problem’, share miracle ‘just relax’ stories, comment on lifestyle changes like quitting drinking or suggest adoption could always be a fallback option.
She also cautioned against saying how exciting it must be to start IVF – because for many, it’s actually a scary and uncertain step, rather than a thrilling one.
Instead, she suggested showing empathy—say you’re sorry they’re going through this, let them know you’re there if they need to talk, and take some time to read up on IVF so they don’t have to explain everything to you themselves.
Thoughtful gestures however small are usually always welcome when someone is going through the emotional ups and downs of treatment.
Importantly if you know others going through treatment at the same time, consider connecting them – with mutual consent of course. Shared experiences, in the right context, can be incredibly supportive.
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Published by NOW-fertility’s Communication Department.
Communication Manager: Annette Eckersley
E: annetteeckersley@now-fertility.com
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